What is grief ?

Grief is a natural response to loss. The more significant the loss, the more intense the response.

Grief is expressed in your emotions, thoughts and behaviour, beliefs, physical health, your sense of self and identity, and your relationships with others. Grief can leave you feeling sad, angry, anxious, shocked, regretful, relieved, overwhelmed, isolated, irritable or numb.

Grief has no set pattern or time frame. Some people may grieve for weeks and months, while others may describe their grief lasting for years. Through the process of grief you will begin to work around your loss.

Grief takes time..

The support of friends and family or someone else to talk to about your loss when you need to, will help you work through your grief.

Self Care...

Grieving can be exhausting. It is important to eat a healthy diet, exercise ansleep. Do things you enjoy, even if you don't really feel like doing them. Seek out support.

Grief is not Depression...

Grief and depression are quite different but they can appear similar. Depression stands out from grief as being more persistent, with constant feelings of emptiness and despair and a difficulty feeling pleasure or joy.

iMemorial can help...

Many people do not know what to say or do when trying to comfort someone who is grieving. However, often it is the simple offers of love and support that is the most important. Offers of help, acknowledging the situation, listening and encouraging the bereaved to talk openly about their feelings will make the difference.

Visiting iMemorial and sharing memories by posting comments in the condolence forums (private and/ or public), email notifications are sent, will help members of the grieving community.

Creating an iMemorial not only honours your loved one by celebrating and preserving their life story, it can focus the grief of those left behind, in a positive and constructive way. Importantly, this virtual legacy and digital footprint can be visited for anywhere around the world, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year from any pc, tablet or smart phone.

Share inspirational quotes and beautiful imagery from iMemorial to offer the bereaved comfort and let them know you are thinking of them in the many days to come of their grief journey.

Certain times of the year such as anniversaries, birthdays and holidays may be particularly difficult. Acknowledging and remembering these dates will help. iMemorial sends email reminders on pre-selected dates.

Remember...

No matter how much pain you may feel, you will survive your loss.

Emotional ups and downs are a normal part of the grieving process.

Paradoxically, in order to get past the difficult feelings, you must experience them. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing.

Don't try to speed up or avoid the process. If you do, you will not heal properly. Your grieving will have been incomplete, and your energy to deal with the present will remain bound to the past.

Avoid other changes and don't make big decisions unless you must.

Write about your loss. Expressing emotions will encourage the grieving process to move along.

Most cultures have ceremonies to mark death. Create your own ritual that has meaning for you. A ritual marking any loss helps us to acknowledge that the loss is real. It is a way to honour the loss, and to separate the past from the present.

Grief Resources...

There a range of organisations and resources to support people through their grief. Search these options online via a search engine query.